By now you’ve been wished ‘Happy New Year’ more times than you care to count. Many of those wishing that for you don’t know about the pain and loneliness that you struggle with. You feel like you are a fraud, because you don’t feel happy and excited about the new year.
In fact, you’re dreading it. The thought of another year brings with it so much pain and loneliness that you don’t know how to cope. You feel like you’re stuck in this endless cycle that you can’t escape from.
They don’t see those parts of your life that you hide from others. They don’t know about how you stay in a bad relationships as a way of avoiding loneliness.
When faced with either loneliness or a bad relationship, you opt for staying in the bad relationship. You keep it going the way it is rather than change things.
Part of you knows that this isn’t right, but the fear of being alone is too much. You’d rather put up with the pain and loneliness than be by yourself.
But what if I told you that there is another way? That you don’t have to face this pain and loneliness anymore?
There is hope.
It could be that the last time you tried changing things, it didn’t end well. So rather than try again, you choose to keep doing what you’ve been doing.
The problem is that loneliness will make you sick. Staying in your unhealthy relationship will make you sick as well. Your choice of staying in the unhealthy relationship amounts to wishing yourself a sick new year.
The affair is a sign that things aren’t healthy. Staying in the relationship without making any changes only keeps you locked into the unhealthy patterns.
You may not get sick right away, but the stress of being in an unhealthy relationship will eventually catch up to you.
The new year gives you the energy needed for making positive change in your relationship. Now is a great time for changing how things have been done. Instead of settling for being unhealthy, you can instead choose for making things better.
One of the best things you can do is work through the Affair Recovery Workshop. The affair may have been ended, yet the damage was never addressed, nor anything changed in your marriage.
I want you to order your copy of the workshop. You deserve a better marriage and a better year. Even though you deserve better, it could be that you’ve been stuck unhealthy patterns for so long, you don’t believe its possible or that you deserve better.
Use the new year to make new changes.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
