In some previous posts I mentioned the threat of crafty liars. I wanted to follow up on that with my own experience with them.
First, let me point out that the closer they are to you, the more damage they can do. When the crafty liar is a family member, the damage can be immense.
Due to loyalty issues, you assume that family members won’t take advantage of you or intentionally damage your marriage. But, family members can be the most damaging liars of all. They know your vulnerabilities and they use them against you.
I have seen firsthand how a family member can lie in order to hurt someone they claim to love. In my case, the liar was my mother-in-law. These loyalty bonds of family are what also blinds you to friends and close work associates who are crafty liars.
In my case, the crafty liar was a family member. I wanted to think the best of them, which kept me from seeing how they were undermining my marriage. I was unaware of the negative impact they were having on my marriage until months after I figured out what they were doing.
In my situation, the family member had my wife’s ear. She used that relationship to start rumors and plant seeds of doubt. This caused a lot of pain and mistrust in my marriage.
Anytime she could twist an event to make it even look like an affair or disloyalty, she exploited it. This meant that anytime I was late getting home or meeting with a female peer, the accusations started flying.
My crafty liar knew that all she needed to accomplish was create doubt. Her lie only had to start my wife asking questions and doubting me.
If you are unfortunate enough to have a crafty liar close to you, be very careful. Don’t take anything they say at face value. Check the facts and get other people’s opinions before making decisions. Above all, keep your distance if possible.
Her lies weren’t just about accusing me of having an affair. Anytime I was working on the computer, there were accusations of watching porn or virtual sexual relations. Over time, her accusations were increasingly outrageous.
She knew they didn’t have to be believable, only listened to enough to raise doubts.
I couldn’t be home all the time to deal with her accusations, rumors and slander. While at work, I was vulnerable to her lies.
Going through that experience taught me many lessons about how crafty liars work, the damage they can do and how they mess with your head. I also learned ways of countering what she did.
You can’t stop crafty liars from spreading slander and rumors. You can strengthen your marriage to the point where those lies don’t stick.
Dealing with crafty liars is not for the inexperienced. With a few well placed lies, they can have you doubting and questioning yourself.
In my video on “How Can I Trust You Again?“, I share the trust formula which gives you what you need to keep the lies from sticking.
Although the title is about trust, the information gives you much needed help in dealing with crafty liars.
Crafty liars destroy trust, whether it be between you and your spouse or your reputation at work or church. The crafty liar counts on things like fear and peer pressure to start controlling you.
When trust is destroyed, they exploit the damage. Knowing ways of building trust is a way of making your marriage strong enough to where crafty liars can’t damage it the ways they once did.
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Keeping It Real,
Jeff
