One of the painful consequences of affairs are unwanted children. In some cases, the children of the original marriage/relationship become unwanted and in other cases, the children produced by the affair become unwanted. Irregardless of how the children arrived in their situation, they face the pain of rejection. Children also know when they are being rejected. It is as if they have a meter to know when people like them and when they are ‘just being nice’. They also have a way of sensing when people are playing their parent versus actually being interested in them.
Although dealing with children is an aspect that is often overlooked concerning affairs, it is part of the package deal that affairs come with. In a manner similar to fast food restaurants that sell their products in “meal deals”, when you have an affair, you are taking on a ‘full meal deal’ that includes children, health issues, legal issues and in-laws. Although one does not date a person because they love the in-laws, recognizing that having to deal with them is part of what comes with the person involved in the affair.
You may have the hots for your ‘lover’, but keep in mind that lovers come with strings attached. They, like yourself also have baggage that comes with them.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
