There are times when I can tell one of my migraines is coming on. At those times, I know that putting off taking action on the approaching pain is asking for trouble.
At those moments avoiding pain is a priority. While I’m still able to think clearly and function, I take action. I know that medicating the situation gets me out of the pain, but doesn’t fix the situation or what caused the migraine in the first place.
In a similar way, when you are facing the pain of infidelity, you’re faced with choices. Like facing the oncoming threat of a migraine, focusing on removing the pain doesn’t fix your situation. The choice is either reduce the pain or deal with the cause of the pain.
The pain alerts you to the fact that you need to take action. Removing the pain is akin to removing a warning system alerting you to dangers. It’s a quick fix, but it doesn’t deal with the underlying cause. Ignoring the pain or pretending it isn’t there will not make it go away. It only delays dealing with the issue, but eventually, the pain will catch up to you.
Just like with my migraines, I need to face the pain and deal with the source of the pain.
So when a reader asked “How to stop the pain of infidelity”, I’m reminded of my migraine story. When your priority is stopping the pain, it redirects your recovery from the affair.
I understand that there are times when the pain overwhelms you. Like a personal tormentor, it follows you around slowing your digesting, messing with your breathing, and speeding up your mind.
It’s no wonder you feel out of control when going through torment like that. At those times of intense pain, you need somewhere to go that you can release the pain, cry and let it out.
This is where you need to ask for help. I have some recent openings in my schedule. If you want to set up a time, find out costs or have other questions, email me at Jeff@RestoreTheFamily.com . I’ll listen to your story and help get your struggles off your chest anonymously.
There are also others there who have faced similar situations. You don’t have to be alone in your pain. There is a place to go.
You’ll also find articles, videos and forums addressing the ugly parts of affairs and ways of dealing with them.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
