When cheaters start questioning their values and morals, one of the concerns that often comes up is the topic of multiple spouses, which in most cases means multiple wives. In many cases, cheaters will take the lives of various Bible characters and use them to ‘justify’ their cheating. They want their ‘fair share’ of other people. They go looking for any excuse supporting their desire for extra-marital relations. Although cheaters often mention the multiple spouses, they conveniently overlook the penalty for adultery being death. They look for excuses rather than accountability. They may say, “didn’t Abraham have more than one wife?” He did, and the world is still paying for his mistakes. The portrayal of the bad acts of good people was not presented for you or the cheater to copy, but rather as a warning. In each case of multiple spouses, the story of their lives is presented in a way to show you what will happen when you split your affections and do your spouse wrong. People do make mistakes. You can either learn from their mistakes or repeat their mistake. I have heard the Bible stories taken out of context to excuse many things, including polygamy. In the twisted mind of a cheater, they only see the polygamist as their hero/heroine rather than a warning against the practice.
In each case, those with multiple spouses has conflict and dissension in their families. It always brought destruction and death. The adulterers and adultresses ended up with more misery than happiness. Multiplying spouses or lovers will actually do more to ‘double your trouble’ rather than ‘double your pleasure.’
So if your cheater starts spouting Biblical examples to justify what they are doing, you know the rest of the story. They are only looking at the exciting parts rather than how the story ends or the body count when the the full impact of the infidelity is settled.
Best Regards,
Jeff Murrah
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Very WELL put!!!
Actually if you do it the way marriage was designed to be done it will be ENOUGH ! and it will satisfy and fulfill …in Christ …THANK you.
Like my mom used to say ” If you do housework right it should kill you!”
I say if a man takes care to learn to love one woman for a lifetime that will suffice!
[BTW …I am still alive though I do all my own housework …so that may give you an idea of how clean my house is!…HA~ ….I think I do pretty well …it is my ‘aerobic ‘ work out and believe me …the size of this place is a pretty good ‘personal trainer’!…AND I ENJOY keeping my home! …HEY Feminists ! Stick that in your pipe and smoke it!!!]….so THERE! Heeeheeeehee.!
I firmly agree with your sentiments.
When you do a marriage and home like they are supposed to be, they are full time operations. The home when it is being used right is the centre of health, knowledge, fellowship, etc., Modern society has taken over many of these functions, much to our detriment. Being familiar with the history of medical practice and education, each of these are better handled in the home.
These days, most couples have their plates full with just maintaining their relationships. They are not ready to deal with how to unleash the power of family and the home. I would love to help people unleash that power. At this point, my hands are full addressing the topic of overcoming adultery and the related relationship issues.
People often say they get bored with their spouses. Since boredom comes from not being engaged, the problem is not that their spouses are not interesting, the problem is that they are not engaged enough to discover the wonders of their spouse, which gets back to the original design. When spouses are viewed as playthings or sexual toys, yes, they will get tired of them. When they are viewed as partners and co-creators, things change and they start to see the BIGGER picture.