In working with police officers, I’ve experienced extreme experiences. Some of the best outcomes and some of the worst situations happened working with police officers.
I know from working with them, that they face pressures and challenges that the public are unaware of and don’t appreciate. They’re often expected to take risks and do things way beyond what’s asked of civilians.
Taking such risks and living in an environment filled with adrenaline takes its toll. Like all of us, police officers need appreciation and affection as well. Some police officers can handle the pressures, yet not all of them can.
Like many other professions, there are some that exploit it rather than respect it. The study I mentioned yesterday presented at the National Academy of Sciences looked examined police officers to see if there was a connection between those involved in misconduct and them being involved in infidelity.
The researchers found that the same officers with records of misconduct were also involved in infidelity at twice the rate of other officers. It seems that when they start straying, that infidelity is not a big stretch.
They’re trained to take risks. Some officers redirect that risk taking in the form of stepping out on their spouses.
Being a police officer gives status and power. Being able to manage the status and power in appropriate ways puts some under more pressure than they can handle.
I also know that some of the scariest affair situations I encountered were those where police were the lover or the betrayed. When that happens, things have a way of escalating quickly.
When you’re accustomed to a high adrenaline life where revenge and victory are important and guns are tools of the trade things get scary. Revenge, victory, and adrenaline are easily found with affairs. Since police officers deal with these things on a daily basis, they have experience facing them, which civilians don’t.
What this means is that the stakes are higher when it comes to infidelity and police officers. When you are dealing with a high risk situation, help is needed.
One tool that helps is the video “Help for the Cheater: Starting the Road to Recovery”. It guides you through the tough choices in ending the affair and opening up discussion of the matter.
Given that many officers are leery of counselor types, having help that comes to your home means that privacy and confidentiality are assured.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
