The past couple of days I’ve talked about various vocations and their risks related to infidelity. Each vocation has its own unique dangers when it comes to affairs.
Knowing what the risks are help prepare you for those dangers and develop plans for dealing with them. The big problem is when you are unaware of the dangers and get blindsided by the affair.
It’s easy getting so wrapped up in your vocation to the point where you’re blind to the inherent dangers that comes with it. You may think nothing of the danger, yet your spouse sees them and is concerned. With that in mind, it’s prudent to discuss them and have a plan in place that reduces the dangers.
You didn’t intend on an affair happening, or thought it was possible. It came into your life a little at a time until it was too powerful to hold back. Most dangers don’t appear as dangerous as they truly are. The dangers associated with affairs initially present themselves as ‘innocent’ or just a little naughty.
Those little naughty thoughts and acts eventually become overwhelming. Affairs come through a series of choices. One choice by itself may not bring the affair, but together, all those choices build up power.
Anytime you compromise your values, it starts putting you at risk for other compromises. Take for instance, white collar criminals.
The study I’ve made references to found that with white collar criminals, those guilty of insider trading were twice as likely to have affairs as their non-inside trading peers. All vocations have dangers, yet when you start making compromises, you start taking risks.
Taking risks doesn’t stay contained to the job site. You start taking risks in your life and marriage.
Perhaps its greed, or the adrenaline rush. Whatever is behind the insider trading dangers puts them at risk of affairs as well.
This means that money and power don’t make you immune to infidelity. There are dangers among the wealthy and those handling the money of the wealthy.
If you’ve found yourself in one of these situations, you can do something about it. You can take steps reducing the possibility of affair relapse.
When you ignore the dangers of Affair Relapse, the possibility of you being blind-sided again is high. Those drives and decision-making that were there when the affair happened are still in place.
When your mind is still the mind of a cheater and your trying to white knuckle fidelity, you are putting yourself at risk. The risk is not worth it. A few more bad choices and you can be in an even worse place.
A good choice at this point is obtaining the video on Preventing Affair Relapse. What you learn will help you navigate the challenges and high risk situations you find yourself in.
The time to keep the affair at bay is before it begins. It could be that what started your affair problem is still at work in your life. Take steps that reduce the dangers.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
