With regularity, the subject of ‘the sin of infidelity’ comes up. Like clockwork, there are always some who want to know if it’s a sin. I can understand this since the old term of adultery changed to infidelity and then later to affairs. The latest iteration is calling it non-monogamous.
In terms of knowing whether or not infidelity (or adultery) is a sin, even a cursory reading of Holy Scripture addresses that concern and puts it in the sin category. Although this concern is settled, there are always those who go looking for loopholes. Like lawyers examining a contract, they search for when it’s sin or not sin. They look for exceptions to the rule.
Going through the phase of looking for loopholes and exceptions is one of the common steps cheaters wrestle with. Some even take the position that the standards don’t apply to them or their situation. However, the truth is that infidelity is a breach of trust and covenant between two individuals. It goes against the very foundation of a committed relationship. They consider themselves as ‘special’ and have unique needs. Somehow the rules about adultery only apply to the unenlightened in their minds.
Infidelity is not just about breaking rules or contracts; it’s about betraying someone’s love, commitment, and loyalty. It causes deep emotional pain and can have devastating effects on both parties involved. There are also some who not only consider infidelity a sin, but they hold onto the idea that it’s an unforgivable sin. They believe that once it happens, your marriage is over. Some even go so far as to view adultery as a ‘Get out of Marriage Free’ card they can play.
What I think is more important in affair recovery is healing after the sin of infidelity. You and your marriage can recover from what happened. I believe that infidelity is forgivable. Infidelity doesn’t have to mean the end of your marriage. I also believe that it is not a ‘Get out of Marriage Free Card’.
There are ways of restoring your relationship. There are ways of recovering and healing your soul, heart and mind after it happens. Infidelity doesn’t have to be considered an unforgivable sin unless you want it to stay that way.
Holding onto your resentments and grudges is a sure way of keeping infidelity unforgiven. Withdrawing from your spouse and refusing to talk with them is another way of keeping things unforgiven.
Keeping secrets and telling lies about the affair also keeps it unforgivable. Then some don’t know how or where to start letting go of something that did so much damage. I find that some of the same people who consider infidelity an unforgivable sin are often those who end up sinning in holding onto their grudges, resentments, and bitterness. It’s a weird paradox of how they treat infidelity and end up tripping up themselves.
If you do not know where to start or how to forgive, there’s hope. The video “Forgiveness: Stop the Pain, Tear down the Walls and Remove the Roadblocks”, is a must for you. Inside I address how and where to start concerning forgiveness.
Recovery from infidelity is possible. The question is whether or not you want to recover.
You can click and download the video, starting your journey to recovery within a few minutes.
Infidelity doesn’t have to be an unforgivable sin.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
