Feeling secure is important in many areas of your life, including your property and your marriage. It’s so important that every day you are exposed to multiple ads selling security and home monitoring systems. Security is now big business in some areas.
When I lived in a small coastal community in Texas, everyone had security systems. Driving down the street you passed a vast array of reflective signs proclaiming who’s protected their homes. Seeing all those signs often left me wondering what happened to the days when you’d call the police department when people broke in. Now you have a company that takes over the watching of your home and calls the police for you.
I never bought one of those systems but had a friend in the security business who gave me one of his security signs. I proudly put my security sign out in keeping with the norms of the neighborhood. At that point, I fit in with my neighbors, and no burglar was any wiser.
Although your wedding ring should function like the security signs, with the changes in attitude about marriage, they don’t work like they used to. Either that or potential lovers don’t care about who they begin hitting on.
When someone makes a pass for your spouse, no one calls the relationship police. There is no early warning sign or monitoring to protect you. There is no silent alarm alerting the main office that someone is breaking into your spouse’s heart or pants.
Relationship burglars don’t give any warning before they strike. The only warning signs are when your spouse starts emotionally wandering, yet by then, things have gotten bad. This is the stuff that Kenny Rogers sang about in “Ruby, Don’t take Your Love to Town”, Gary Puckett with “Woman, Woman” and Johnny Cash in “Jackson“.
The angst of such a song, with the pain of a spouse seeing their partner reject them and go seeking someone else is heartbreaking. That kind of heartbreak has a way of shattering your soul. It’s worse when your spouse has been unfaithful in the past, and you know they are capable of straying again. Some would say that once a cheater, always a cheater.
You can try monitoring who your spouse works with or where they hang out with friends, yet doing so runs the risk of accusations of you ‘spying’ or ‘overcontrolling’ them. Those kinds of accusations only end up pushing the two of you further apart rather than giving either one of you any more security.
In such cases, I’ve seen prayer used effectively, yet these days, few people know how to do that kind of prayin’. Another way of dealing with that kind of situation is by strengthening your marriage. One proven way of doing that is with the ’30 Days to a Better Marriage’. In such desperate times, you need something that works without doing the trial-and-error experimentation on your own.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
