In a breakfast conversation, I had a few years ago with a high tech expert, the subject of swingers came up. This isn’t surprising since people ask what I do and on telling them, the conversation changes.
What made this conversation different was that the subject of the “High Tech” swingers came up. The conversation included Andrew, who attended some of the “High Tech” swinger events out on the west coast.
He viewed the ‘High Tech swingers’ as overflowing with ‘positive’ vibes and energy. They just felt so ‘positive’ and were just ‘overflowing with love and authenticity.
The event included pre-measured doses of MDMA (ecstasy) and mind-altering drugs as part of the events leading up to the swinging. Another popular drug used is hallucinogenic mushrooms.
In the name of fostering creativity, the drugs enhanced the ‘positive vibes’ and sexual performance of the participants. The drugs also lessen their inhibitions for ‘partying’.
Although my initial reaction was surprising. After some thinking about it, many affairs begin under the guise of being a ‘positive experience’. Even swinger trolls justify their affairs to me talking about how they are ‘positive experiences.’
The trolls and high-tech swingers view themselves as smart enough to bypass the consequences that ‘weaker’ people have when sleeping around. By tinkering with their brain and chemical make-up, they short-circuit the natural systems inside you.
Many of these high-tech swings view themselves as better than others. They believe they can outsmart the weak-minded ‘others’. This mindset is not limited to the high-tech crowd. There are many financial and medical people in the same lifestyle. Those high powered physicians treating you may be doing mushrooms and sleeping around as part of their secret lifestyle.
By chemically bypassing their bodies, you hook up with whoever else is feeling ‘positive’ without having to deal with things like attraction or guilt.
In an effort to keep the participants from natural consequences, drinks containing other chemicals balancing out the side effects from the mind-altering drugs were made available.
I wonder if those taking it take into consideration the potential long-term effects of brain swelling and kidney malfunction that come with the exotic chemical cocktails they are ingesting. I doubt that when in the midst of a drug-induced altered state that they consider that long-term use produces concentration difficulties and heart disease.
I also wondered about the long-term impact of such mind-altering chemical use. These are people, not some kind of machine whose performance can be tweaked with chemical additives. The longer and more routine the use, the greater the danger.
It also concerned me that if the wife swapping was so ‘natural’ and freeing, why were so many mind-altering chemicals used in such controlled dosages? Why are their wives pleading for help in leaving the world they are held captive by?
If it is so natural and freeing, why have so many husbands now pimping out their wives in the swinger classified ads? It doesn’t sound very natural or freeing to me.
If it is so freeing, then why does there have to be so much secrecy about what they are doing?
When what you do needs so many chemical additives, it’s not good for you, no matter how noble the cause. Going outside of the boundaries of your marriage has consequences. When you break the boundaries you end up paying for it.
No amount of alcohol or drug takes away the consequences of crossing those boundaries. Your body still knows when things aren’t right.
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Keeping It Real,
Jeff
