Although the entertainment industry had worked on making affairs look acceptable by taking the pain and shame out of affairs, the reality is far different than what is portrayed. The movies often show attractive people who manage to either ‘bounce back’ after an affair or manage to make the affair situation work. Either way, it does not work. Although in the movies, the stars find the love of their life in the midst of the affair, the movies don’t show the pain, and the ugliness that affairs bring.
The 90-minute escape does not provide the kind of time frame needed to convey the day-to-day pain and turmoil produced by the affair. Affairs are often emotional and filled with high-drama as people find ways to either express or deal with their pain. I recall once working with a woman who had been featured in a adult entertainment. Although in her prime, she was attractive and vivacious. The descriptions of her made is sound like she was ready for anything. The reality of multiple relationships and promiscuity took on toll on her emotionally and psychologically. The broken woman she became was tragic. Life for her was not like in the movies.
Although there are escort services who advertise that “Life is short”, having an affair is a sure way to make what life you have filled with pain, regret and misery. Ironically the ‘life is short’ excuse is used to justify many wrongs. If they were honest, it would read “Life is too short to mess up with an affair”.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
