Cheaters do not play fair. Their cheating is testimony to how they try to bend the rules in their favor. They often believe that the ‘rules’ apply to others and not to themselves or that they are too smart to get caught. They surround themselves with lies to cover what they are doing, why they are doing it and what they hope to achieve. If you are feeling overwhelmed by the lies, you are not loosing it. There really are that many lies. You are entering a world of sick reality surrounded by make believe.
The cheater howl like wounded dogs when their spouse begins telling lies on them. If you have succumbed to lies about them, then suddenly you are unfair, unreasonable or just plain outright ‘crazy’. When they lie about their sexual life, they think it is ok. If you lie about their sexual activity, they scream. If you say they had relations with people somehow it is painted as being ‘evil’, yet if they lie in order to hide their sexual activity, it is seen as ‘acceptable’ (at least in their eyes). If you lie about their sexual activity in order to alienate them from their children or accusations of sexual abuse- they say “YOU HAVE GONE TOO FAR!”. When they lied about what they did, even though it endangered the whole family, and created alienation, it was seen as them just being “human”. The “I am a man!” or “I am a woman!” just does not justify what they have done.
I do not approve or encourage either party to lie. It is awfully ironic how the same behavior of lying can be portrayed as being acceptable or human in some situations, but when it is turned around, it becomes ‘unacceptable’ and ‘devious’ when employed back at them.
I will be dealing more with lying in the upcoming webinar “Don’t let the Ho-Ho-Ho’s ruin your Holiday” on Wednesday, December 8 at 6:00pm CST. You can sign up for it here. Since it is a webinar, it will be available by phone or on the internet.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
