How to tell if your husband is a bastard checklist

There are times when reading emails that the pain of what the reader is enduring comes through loud and clear. Their choice of words and what they want answers to make it clear they’re going through some deep hurts.

When a wife posed the question “When is a husband being a bastard to his wife?” Her question makes it clear that her husband’s clearly done something to hurt or alienate her.

Since the term ‘bastard’ is one of those terms often used by a wife when there’s been an extreme hurt, it deserves a closer examination.

A closer look at the word tells us it’s value. The term bastard is a legal one and was written into church law in the middle ages (5th century). It’s not an everyday casual term like ‘jerk’.  It was used to describe a child born out of wedlock.

To make terms clear, I’ve gone ahead and put together Six signs He’s a Bastard checklist.

For this checklist, he qualifies as a bastard with one item, yet the more items he does the bigger a bastard he is.

Six Signs He’s a Bastard

1. He was born out of wedlock (in keeping with the classic definition).
2. He’s being dishonest or less than authentic with you in a MAJOR way such as a big financial swindle, backstabbing or blocking you. This includes hiding major parts of his life such as a secret life or hiding bank accounts.
3. He’s fathered a child out of wedlock.
4. He intentionally misled you or deceived you in a MAJOR way and throws you under the bus without any remorse. This includes taking you to court.
5. He refuses to listen to any authority other than himself.
6. He refuses to honor the marriage vows he made to you in a huge way.
7. He intentionally hurts you in a way that hits you in an area you are vulnerable and causes intense suffering. This also includes intentionally damaging or destroying things that are important to you.

This list led to discussions with my wife about what constitutes calling your husband a bastard. I’ve included some dictionary definitions along with some modern applications of the term.

One of the items that was clear is that when you as a wife resort to calling your husband a ‘bastard’ you are expressing some intense emotional pain. It’s not a term used lightly.

If things are that desperate, there’s a high likelihood of some trauma going on. With that being the case, you’ll benefit from downloading the video on “Overcoming Affair Trauma“. The informative video guides you through what trauma is and ways of dealing with it, so that you no longer have to suffer with it.

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Keeping It Real,

Jeff