Years ago, my brother Tim made me a cassette tape and gave it to me on my birthday. He entitled in ‘Music Even a 30-Year Old Can Listen To’. It was filled with music from that time period (Siouxsee and the Banshees, The Cure, and others).
In those days, it was common practice to record a mix of songs for people you cared about, since those songs expressed what you were experiencing. A good mix did a lot for you.
The closest thing to those old mix tapes are the personal music playlists on YouTube. There are playlists covering a wide range of emotional experiences.
I even came across one entitled ‘Break-up Songs‘. Such a playlist I would have classified as ‘crying in your beer music’ in my youth. These are songs that on listening to over and over plunge you deep into self-pity, or if you dedicate such a playlist to someone, it’s a strong rejection of them.
There is a need of being wanted. When your spouse tells you “I don’t want you anymore”, or “I don’t care anymore” or “I no longer want you”, it’s devastating to you. These things are hard to hear and harder to accept. Your fist reaction may be some variation of “You don’t mean that!”
When the reality of them not wanting you anymore sinks in, it’s deflating. When the denial switch in your head is finally in the ‘off’ position, such news melts the life out of you. You lose your mojo, your energy, your sex drive drops and your face sinks.
There is little if any motivation to get out of bed in the morning. Anyone who sees you know that ‘something’s not right.’
When this happens, running to the ‘break-up playlist’ may express what you’re feeling, but it’ll also drag you down. The power of music is strong.
The power is so strong that persisting in such break-up songs impacts your health down to your bones. Every system in your body from your heart, to your digestive system are impacted. It’s no wonder you feel like everything inside of you aches.
What about you? Want to learn how to move past this? You don’t have to stay miserable, if you don’t want to.
I suggest that you purchase the video, “Getting Past the Affair Crisis”. It takes you through what you need in getting past the melt-down and helps you get your life back.
Getting your life back is no easy thing. It requires working through the pain rather than giving into it or going around it or masking it. In order to get real healing, you’ve got to be honest about what’s really going on, what was actually said and what actually happened.
At the times your listening to your emotional meltdown playlist, the music amplifies your emotions to the point you’re not seeing things in a clear light. Rather than giving into some emotional phantom event, start working on your healing.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
