Last year, I mentioned straycations and their connection with cruises. Although the term straycation is new, the idea isn’t. A straycation is when your spouse has an affair for a ‘change of pace’.
In previous decades, these clandestine meetings were all lumped together under the term ‘affairs’. The adulterers just made it a point of sneaking off together.
My wife recalls episodes when her mother insisted on having a yearly vacation away from her father. The irony is that the vacation was always taken in a small town where she met with her lover.
While the kids were busy swimming and doing summer activities, her mother would sneak off with her ‘friend’ as she referred to him. It’s amazing how many lovers are introduced as ‘my friend’. It had the external appearances of old friends catching up on things, yet there was a darker side to the ‘yearly vacations’ to this small town.
Her mother eagerly looked forward to these yearly escapes. She planned and prepared for them months ahead of time. That kind of planning goes way beyond leaving town just to watch her daughter swim at the home of one of her ‘old friends’.
If things aren’t adding up when your spouse goes out of town, or they continue insisting on having time away from you to the same location year after year, you may be dealing with a straycation rather than a vacation.
some things to watch for if you suspect this is going on include making sure your spouse is where he or she says they are. Check their cell phone activity, emails, social media accounts and see if the location matches what was said.
If things don’t match, or look out of place and don’t fit are signals that something more is going on than you assumed. When you finally figure it out, it’s likely too late to stop it.
Once you figure it out, you’ll need some help. In the video, “Getting Past the Affair Crisis”, I share with you ways of dealing with the discovery and immediate aftermath of uncovering an affair.
Instead of feeling lost and bewildered, find out what you can do starting with downloading the video.
Straycations don’t have to destroy your marriage.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
