There are times these days when I consult urban dictionaries in order to understand what people are talking about. This is unusual for me.
When growing up, the only times I used dictionaries was when I had some school paper or vocabulary assignment.
The word I encountered that started me on this journey was “Thot“. I periodically came across it and wondered ‘what is it?’
It sounded like some kind of alien race I encountered before on a Star Trek episode. Boy, was I mistaken.
Several of the urban dictionaries identify it as an acronym referring to “that ho over there”. The term is typically referred to females who send nude pictures to others and sleep around.
Apparently the old term of ‘slut’ is old-fashioned and loaded with emotional baggage. When words become too politically hot these days, new disguised words arise so that communication continues without others knowing what’s going on.
I suspect that there are male Thots out there as well. In working with affairs, these thot types are an ever present threat to marriages.
Although I’ve mentioned creepers and poachers in previous posts. Thots present another threat. They use their sexuality as a way of drawing their victim closer.
One thing about thots is that they are immune to shame. If you attempt shaming them, they sincerely believe they’ve done nothing wrong. They sleep around and are okay with it.
For them sex is another tool in their tool box. They don’t mind giving out free peaks or free samples. They don’t mind sending snapchat photos of things they should be hiding.
Appealing to their mothering or fathering instinct won’t get you anywhere either. They don’t do guilt.
This means that it’s up to your spouse to say ‘no’ and resist these threats to your marriage. This means if your spouse has already had an affair, they are vulnerable to attacks from these threats.
This requires that when they say no, they have to mean ‘no’. They also can’t give them an opening. If you give them an opening, they turn on the poor, pitiful looks. They can trigger guilt, even though it doesn’t work on them.
If you need other ways of dealing with threats, consider purchasing the video, “Overcoming Affair Relapse”. These threats aren’t going away.
Since they aren’t going away, you need a game plan for dealing with the threats out there. Keep in mind that not all thots are found in bars. Their also found in offices, school classrooms, real estate offices, and other locations.
The best strategy is preparing ways of reducing the risk.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
