There’s never a good time for discovering your spouse’s affair. No matter when you discover their affair, it brings pain and heartache.
One of the more tragic times is at funerals. Secrets have a way of coming out at funerals.
People and events come out that you and they thought were well hidden. You suddenly discover that your recently deceased spouse had another side to them that included a hidden lover. Even more shocking is another family.
When those secrets show up at the funeral it rocks your world. You can’t always control who or what shows up at the funeral.
Then there’s also potential scammers claiming to be the lover or their love child in order to take advantage of your vulnerabilities at that time.Typically such types also bring claims with them that include wanting money.
You’re not in a place for fighting and they know that. The mere suggestion of an affair is enough to take you to your limits.
Discovering an affair at that time changes how you view your life together. It changes the lens you look at them, yourself and your relationship.
Beating on the body and screaming at it won’t give you answers. They took their secret to the grave with them.
Discovering an affair at a funeral also brings a shock. At a time when you’re emotionally vulnerable, the shock wave hits you. Being hit with such a shock at this time is overwhelming.
The funeral limits your options. One of those options was the ability to get your questions answered from them.
At this time, you wonder what you can do. One thing you can do is come to grips with the situation. You can’t change what happened, but there are things you can change.
In the video, “Getting Past the Affair Crisis“, I share with you ways of coming to grips with this kind of shocking revelation. At that time, you are definitely in a crisis.
You need a way to get out of bed and get on with life. Adjusting to life after a funeral is tough enough. Adding infidelity to the mix only pushes you over the edge.
You don’t have to let this new revelation overshadow things. You can find your way with some extra help that I share with you in the video.
You may not be able to fix your marriage at those times, but you can fix your life, your heart and mind.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
