The first time I took a trans-Atlantic journey, it changed me. The whole experience taught me an important lesson about fear.
One of the lessons I learned concerned confronting fear. Over the years, there were people in my life who instilled fear.
I never realized it, but their fears were contagious and I took in more of it than I thought. It was as if fear germs infected me. What made it worse was that I let them do it.
They told horror stories about that kind of travel. Conversations with them were filled with all the things that go wrong and the dangers of such adventures. There were stories of plane mishaps, terrorist attacks, and just getting sick from foreign foods.
They found ways of surrounding me with fear of the unknown, fear of being outside the United States, fear of food cooked in foreign kitchens along with fears of air travel.
I hadn’t realized how much of their fears I picked up. Their fears found ways of creeping into my thinking.
Fear is contagious. Like germs, just being around fears has ways of spreading. Those fears kept me from considering many options in my life. They kept me from seeing the world from new perspectives.
It was only when I was willing to pay the price of trans-Atlantic travel, that those fears were overcome. I finally reached the point where the potential benefits were more important than the fears.
In a similar way, it’s only when you are willing to pay the price for improving your marriage and moving past the affair that you’ll leave the fears behind.
When fear is in power, it keeps you paralyzed. It keeps you from taking risks and seeing other options. Fear keeps you in a helpless state of inaction.
It’s only when you see the benefits and pay the price that you move out of the prison cell of fear.
The price includes taking the risk, seeing the benefit, changing your perspective and taking the time out to finally do it. The ‘Affair Recovery Workshop‘ guides you through dealing with the affair along with ways of improving your marriage.
If you’ve been too afraid to address the fear, or take the risk of addressing the problems, today is the day, you can start changing that.
Best Regards,
Jeff
