There are times when screenwriters come up with quotes that resonate with me. I often watch movies and note the lines said that really convey something important.
There are some that capture an experience or moment in a masterful way. Although meant to add drama, the quotes that resonate have something more.
The ones that stand out for me are pithy ways of stating a truth. One that stands out for me from the movie “Die Hard” is the line “They never train you how to live with a mistake”.
It’s one of those lines that’s easily overlooked if you’re focused on the action. The truth of the statement is a timeless one, whatever your profession.
While going through training, you’re instructed in ways of handling various situations. The instructors expectations are that you do what you’re told. They expect you to do as you were trained.
The problems come when you make a mistake or misjudge a situation. In those cases, there was not any intentional bad choices, you just mistook some aspect of the situation. Real life complicated things.
I know in my training as a counselor, there were situations that unfolded my training never prepared me for, including the mistake parts.
When you make a mistake, one of the challenges you face is handling the guilt. Another is handling shame.
Even when the choice was a mistake rather than an intentionally bad one, there’s still guilt. The guilt multiplies when others are hurt by your choice.
When it comes to affairs and affair recovery, there are many mistakes made. Mistakes in what you say, how you say it or what you did.
Those mistakes have ways of making recovery harder that it could have been. The mistakes are like a heavy burden that weighs you down.
At times, the mistake may even make it to where its hard for you to breathe. Mistakes also rattle around in your head for a long time.
Being able to forgive yourself proves difficult. It could be that you don’t know how to forgive. You may have never been trained for that. In most professions, training doesn’t include living with mistakes and forgiving yourself.
Rather than allowing your struggle keep you back, you can start moving past it. In the video “Forgiveness: Stop the Pain, Tear down the Walls and Remove the Roadblocks” you can learn what’s needed.
The video guides you step by step through the process of forgiveness. It gives you a way of handling the heaviness that comes with mistakes. Order your copy today.
Although you weren’t trained for what happened, you can learn ways of moving past it. There are ways of putting it behind you.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
