In a day, your whole life can change. I experienced this a few years ago when one of my sons experienced a burst appendix. In a few hours, my life changes dramatically. The incident reminded me how fast things can happen with the sensation of being totally out of control.
Episodes like that remind me that no matter how much you think you’re the master of your life, things can change quickly. All your plans and dreams you spent days and weeks crafting change without advanced warnings.
Cheaters often live as if they are ‘in control’. They conduct their lives as if there are either no consequences of they have all the potential consequences covered. They live a life based on ass-umptions (I use the term since they’re acting like and ass while making choices based what they think will happen or their own willpower). They certainly have umption, albeit a self-centered one.
What they don’t realize, is how fast that can change. One accident or emergency changes everything. That’s when you realize that living life with a sense of responsibility and taking into account the possible risks becomes the norm.
In conclusion, it is important to remember that no matter how much control we think we have over our lives, things can change quickly.
When things are out of your control, you have to consider your options. It still surprises me how often the choice is made of using control as a way of overcoming being out of control. The logic of exercising more control in overcoming being out of control strikes me as being a ‘hair of the dog’ kind of solution.
When I faced the situation of being out of control, I opted for ‘trust’. Being out of control brings anxiety and fear. Those are two things I didn’t want. Trust is the antidote for fear.
I also know that blind trust is foolish. If I had blindly trusted the hospital, I’d be making my own ass-umptions during a scary situation.
Trust without a foundation, amounts to blindly throwing yourself into the situation as if ‘fate’ demands it. The trust I advocate is the type built on a solid foundation. After observing how the staff dealt with my son, and handled some of my questions, it showed me that one of the ingredients of healthy trust was present.
Their actions and answers showed me that they were committed to his health. Their commitment gave me something solid to put my trust in.
Perhaps you’ve been living a life filled with ass-umptions where you blindly trust your spouse, even though they haven’t given you a reason to. You just assume you’re supposed to do that. That kind of trust is directionless and lost.
Healthy trust always has a foundation. You have a foundation and solid footing.
If you’re looking for ways of building a healthy trust, with a sure foundation, the video, “How Can I Trust You Again?” provides the answers you need. It guides you in knowing what kind of foundation you need in order to trust again.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
