Stay cozy or face the cold? That’s the dilemma I’m grappling with as winter settles into my area. The temptation to stay in bed is strong, but my furry friends have other plans. Their cold noses nudge me awake, reminding me that it’s time for their outdoor adventures and the challenges that come with them.
Speaking of challenges, a reader recently shared her struggle with her husband’s unexpected confession. He admitted to still being in love with his ex-wife from a decade ago, and their recent kiss has him considering leaving their marriage. She’s left wondering what to do next.
Navigating relationships with ex-spouses is a messy and emotional affair, especially when kids are involved. It puts our values and beliefs to the test, forcing us to confront what truly matters along with what your values ‘really’ are. As a counselor, I firmly believe that going back to an ex after committing to someone else is not a wise choice. It’s like giving up potential success for past failures, and that rarely leads to happiness in marriages. You may say that ‘love is love’ or fall for the romantic nostalgia of returning back, but it’s a fantasy.
The truth is, having sexual relations with an ex-spouse while being married to someone else is considered an affair, no matter how you try to label it. The cheater may justify their actions, but the betrayal remains.
From a moral standpoint, both the Old Testament and the New Testament in the Bible explicitly discourage returning to an ex-spouse after remarriage. This repetitive message holds weight in my eyes. If you’d like specific references, reach out to me, and I’ll gladly provide them.
Returning to familiar, comfortable relationships, like slipping back into a warm bed, may be tempting, but it comes with risks. Ex-spouses often know just how to manipulate and draw our partners away from us. They know our weak points and how to exploit them.
If you’re facing challenges from ex-spouses, it’s essential to be prepared. That’s why I recommend the “Overcoming Affair Relapse” as the ultimate guide for safeguarding your marriage. It will equip you with the knowledge to recognize when your spouse is at risk and how the two of you can mitigate the urge to entertain advances from ex-spouses.
Stay strong and keep fighting for the love and commitment you deserve.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
