Have you ever fallen for the ploys of real estate developers? When selling homes, neighborhoods and ‘planned communities’, they come up with catchy slogans.
In my younger years, I recall the phrase “The grass is greener is Pasadena” promoting the city I grew up in. Another one portrayed Kingwood as “The livable forest“.
Although the greener grass was catchy, locals often twisted it around to say, “the air is greener in Pasadena” due to the number of chemical plants in the area.
Each slogan makes you think that somehow you get greener grass or more livable conditions in one of their communities. The realtors sell you on the fantasy of a ‘better life’ where they are selling homes.
You’re led to believe that in purchasing one of their homes, you become a member of some elite group. The sales slogans are about how much better their communities are than other nearby ones.
Given that realtors continue using those ploys, they’re still working. I’ve sat through enough real estate sales presentations to recognize the catchy phrases for what they are.
One group continuing using those same ploys are the affair promoting, free love lifestyle types. They portray themselves as being ‘more sexually free’ and ‘more open minded’ than monogamous couples.
When I hear those claims, my mind immediately thinks back on the greener grass in Pasadena claims. The grass wasn’t greener, the slogan did nothing more than plant that expectation.
They make affairs look like they’re filled with more. You can have more passion, more sex, more fun, more whatever by ….having an affair.
The affair promoters also plant the expectation that somehow more sex with more people means they’re better in some way. In their minds quantity makes things better.
Their answer to everything is MORE!
They want you to think that they’re better or happier because they have more partners. They sell you on the idea of guilt as a bad thing rather than it being a protection that keeps you from dangers.
The Biblical and moral disapproval of affairs is not about keeping you from fun. Those are warning signs alerting you to danger and hazardous conditions.
Much like the warning signs on curvy roads. Sure you can go faster than recommended speeds, but it puts you at risk. The warning signs are there to protect you.
I’ve always known that there’s a huge difference between quantity and quality, even when it comes to marriage. Having a better marriage always trumps having more marriages and the problems that come with multiple marriages.
Having a good car is better than a yard full of cars with problems. The more is better ploy is the same old ‘grass is greener’ sales pitch.
The main difference is that they’re selling you affairs rather than real estate. Let’s hope that you and your spouse have sales resistance when they come around.
If you’re one of those wanting better quality in your marriage than quantity, the video “How Can I Trust You Again?” helps. You can have more trust along with an improved relationship.
The quality of your marriage is built on trust. The more trust, the better the quality of your marriage. If the trust in your marriage has been mishandled or damaged, there are things you can do.
The video gives you the concrete steps needed in starting the process of rebuilding what you once had.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
