When bad things happen in my life, there’s always a time of soul searching that goes with it. In my own life I look for answers to what happened.
During this search I look at what I did or didn’t do. I also explore what contributed to the bad event happening.
Initially, I seek someone or something to blame. It’s not that blaming solves anything. Although it doesn’t fix it, knowing who or what caused the bad event brings a little peace of mind.
When I move past the blaming, I start search for more understanding. It’s when I search for understanding rather than blame that things start making sense.
When affairs happen, there is a time of soul searching. You look for answers that could explain what happened.
One of the items related to affairs is the lack of faithfulness. Although it’s not mentioned much in pop culture, it’s an important piece that’s often overlooked.
You may even wonder where unfaithfulness comes from. I know I have.
I was struck by a statement from my father. he was convinced that “One of the primary contributors to divorce among Christian couples today is the fact that most pastors are not being faithful to their churches.” He continued elaborating on how they move from church to church, becoming a role model for unfaithfulness.
When your pastor role models unfaithfulness, is it any wonder that many marriages like yours, struggles with unfaithfulness? It’s not that people have no faith, they put faith in the wrong thing.
Cheaters put faith in themselves as a way of ‘fixing’ themselves. They look to the affair as their solution to their perceived problems.
In the download, “Affair Recovery Workshop” I go into what needs repairing in relationships. Re-establishing faithfulness toward each other is an important part of the healing.
Talking about faithfulness is often touchy. In the workshop, I guide you with ways of opening up communication in a way where these topics can be addressed.
You may know what you want changed, but aren’t sure where to start. The workshop guides you in pointing out where to start and what needs to be in place in your marriage to start having such conversations.
You may not have considered ‘faithfulness’ in your soul searching. You want it, but do you know ways of improving it?
Best Regards,
Jeff
