The Importance of Questions

Questions are important. The questions we ask direct and determine what kind of answers we will find. In the aftermath of an affair, there are many questions. Some of them are distractions that keep people from looking at and considering what are the important issues. Questions concerning how long one should wait are some of the distracting questions. A more pertinent questions is how strongly do you believe in Marriage? How long did you promise to love, honor and obey? Modern society fosters a spoiled child mindset that when things do not go our way or we are uncomfortable, we can call it quits. The way the law is you can, but in doing so, the value you place on the marriage is not much more than the infidels.  Just in considering time related questions, the mind is looking for rationalizations. When working through affairs, it is more important that you focus on what you need to do that day, what you need to do now, and let the future take care of itself. If you are really brave, try looking at the relationship from your spouse’s viewpoint, just to consider what blind spots they may see in yourself that you don’t see. Staying in relationships takes effort, commitment and sacrifice. Is it possible to put time frames on effort, commitment and sacrifice? It depends on whether your love and commitment are conditional or not. If you love is conditional, you can put time frames on everything. If your love is unconditional, then time  frames are not needed. Recall that “Love is patient”. If you have a love like that in I Corinthians 13, then time frames are not needed, and you can consider other questions.