Flirting is often seen as innocent. Flirting is seen as a behavior where no one gets hurt. If you are in the process of recovering from an affair, flirting is something to avoid. Flirting is the spark that ignited the desires that brought on the mess. If your partner was the one with the affair, flirting may send the wrong message during the recovery time. Flirting is the equivalent of playing with matches. The small talk and the fantasizing often go hand in hand. Stopping the flirting helps reduce the fantasizing. The initial fantasy is not the one that gets people in trouble, it is when you continue going back to the fantasy and play it out repeatedly that troubles begin. Such fantasy, often feed by flirting, creates unhappiness and plants the seed for further actions to unfold.
Best Regards,
Jeff Murrah
