One of the early lessons you learn in fishing is that it is hard to reel in or pull up a fish that is not hooked. Just putting your hook in the water does not automatically mean that a fish will grab it. Nor does taking your boat out to a fishing spot mean that fish will jump into your boat. You have to prepare a baited hook or use a lure. After fixing your hook, you lower it into the water. After lowering it, you have to wait, lure or entice the fish to bite the hook. The hook itself is designed to be easy to go in, but hard to remove.
Many of the lessons learned in fishing have application to affairs. The lover often has to lure and bait their hook. Once the cheater is aroused or interested (or hooked on them), then the work begins on getting the hook in. It is easier getting the hook in when there is bait or lure of some sort. The cheater has to be enticed before they can be hooked. Once the hook is in them, there may be a fight, but for most cheaters, they are now prey.
Does this mean that all lovers are out to hook someone? No, there are some affairs which begin in other ways. At times, the cheater is prowling and the lover is the victim. There are also some where the two stumble into a situation where they hook each other. Regardless of which situation took place, cheaters and lovers do not often bite at un-baited hooks. When traps, snares, and dangers are readily seen, the potential victim avoids the danger. When lovers and cheaters see things clearly, they would make different choices.
There are also the lessons of the ‘fishing spot’. Much like fish often gather in select spots, cheaters and potential cheaters do as well. Avoiding those spots is another way to reduce the risk of being snagged in an affair.
Best Regards,
Jeff Murrah
