In dealing with the aftermath of an affair, once the shock wears off it becomes necessary to decide on a plan. This plan includes your goals, deciding how you will survive, deciding how far you will go to work on the marriage, how far you will not go, and how you will make it through the whole situation. Once you decide on your plan, you will need to put it into action. Those who survive most effectively are often the ones who made their plan and stuck with it. When developing the plan it will be important to have the input of people who you trust and truly have your best interest at heart. Bottom line, although they may care about you, it is you that will have to make the final choices, and it is you, not them who has to live with your own conscience concerning your action or inactions.
Recall that most plans have a tendency to fall apart shortly after you begin working on them. Plans like maps are not always perfect, but they will give you direction and hope as you plot your trajectory out of the mess that you found yourself in. When you feel lost, the plan will remind you of which direction you need to take. When you do not know what to do next, consult the plan and which step is needed to make it to the next goal.
Best Regards,
Jeff Murrah
