Once an affair ends and things settle down to routines an assumption is made that it is over. Since affairs are so secretive and intense, things that remind you of the affair can trigger reactions in both the infidel and the resolute spouse. The reminders of the affair can set off some very intense emotions. This is one of the difficulties associated with trying to keep the whole affair secret. The reminders will serve as testimonies of what happened.
In dealing with these reminders, it will be important to accept the truth about what occurred. Face the reminder and change the meaning of it. You cannot change the past, but you can change the meanings associated with it. When those reminders pop up, change the meanings associated with them.
Best Regards,
Jeff Murrah
