When we go through struggles, as the struggle intensifies, the question of ‘giving up’ or quitting is either suggested to us or crosses our mind. Even when it is just a fantasy, there are those thoughts of “I’ll just walk away”. There are several problems with quitting. 1) Quitting does not solve anything. All it accomplishes it take the struggles and heartache to a different playing field. When there are children, the pains only intensify. Even when there are not children, you are someone else’s child and your parents have to deal with seeing you in pain. 2) Quitting one situation makes it easier to quit the next difficult situation. Quitting has a way of perpetuating itself. The more you quit, the easier it is to quit. This is one of the weaknesses of second marriages. Each of the spouses keep in the back of their heads that they can always walk away from the situation. Just in maintaining those thoughts, there is a weakening of the marriage. Granted, if your physical safety is in danger, then leaving is a recommended option. Leaving a relationship for physical danger is a far cry from leaving one due to emotional tension and conflict. Leaving due to a safety concern carries with it a different mindset than those who leave due to inconvenience or to pursue a fantasy life.
Before calling it quits, consider what it will solve and whether it will actually improve things. If quitting is a pattern for you, rethink what you are considering.
Best Regards,
Jeff Murrah
