One of my sons used to refer to his brother’s girlfriend as a ‘drama llama’. The title was used to convey how she managed to turn many everyday issues into a dramatic episode. One of the harsh realities that comes with dealing with affairs is the tendency toward high drama. Given the emotions and the fears that are triggered by affairs, some drama is ‘normal’. Although some drama is expected in such cases, there are times that the abnormal becomes normal. When high drama occurs routinely in the family and the affair is just another event in their lives.
In those type of situations, the affair has to be considered in a different light. In those types of families, the spouses have grown used to the high drama. It has become part of their routine. In such cases, there is a possibility that the affair was just another incident used to keep the level of stimulation and excitement at the fevered pitch. It is as if the parties try to maintain a state of being emotionally wired, because that is what they are used to. For them, it feels normal. They may not enjoy it, yet find themselves creating a series of dramas, since that is what they are used to. This is common with persons who grew up in households where domestic violence and abuse were common. No one likes it when the drama llama comes to call, yet when you start keeping a ranch of drama llamas you need to look at ‘secondary payoffs’ associated with the drama episodes.
Best Regards,
Jeff Murrah
