After being hurt by an affair, you may find yourself having difficulty trusting. Your distrust may apply to everyone or just to members of the opposite sex. When rebounding from an affair, many things are painted with broad bushes and generalizations are made. You may find yourself lashing out at the world, saying and doing things to either punish others or yourself. Such actions push people away. At the very time you need people, you are pushing them away. Those walls you put up to protect you are not letting anyone else in. As paradoxical as it seems, now is the time you need others, especially those of the opposite sex. You need someone who is not going to hurt you, exploit you or take advantage of you. You need someone who will hear you out. It will also be important that you do not hurt them, exploit them or take advantage of them. One of the many ugly sides of affairs is that after you are hurt, the temptation is to hurt someone else the same way.
Instead of giving in to such urges to hurt, let others in.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
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