After an affair, one argument for couples to stay together is “for the sake of the kids”. This notion is filled with problems. When the children are the reason for a couple staying together, they feel the pressure. They feel like their parents relationship is depending on them and how they behave. It places inhuman pressures on children.
It is responsible to consider the welfare of your kids. If that is the only reason for you and your spouse to stay together after an affair, you are creating problems for yourself.
Staying in “it” for the children, means that you have given up on each other and you will be moving towards mutual dislike and that worsens daily. It will also place undue focus on the children, leading in many cases to spoiled children. When you decide to stay together, mean it. If you really don’t want to be with your spouse they will sense it. They will know if you are patronizing them.
