If sex is just sex, then why is it worse to have carnal relations in one’s home compared to a hotel? If one assumes that sex is just sex, then where it occurs makes little difference. The reality is that it does make a difference.
Although many cheaters do not openly respect the institution of marriage, they are aware of the sacredness of the marriage bed. The bedroom is a sacred place, and as such, should also be a place of safety and comfort.
When the affair comes to the marriage bed, it poses a serious threat to the marriage. When affair sex happens in the marriage bed, it is seen as a major affront. Having carnal relations in the marriage bed also makes the lover more aware of their ‘homewrecking ‘ status. By having relations on the marriage bed, it sends a non-verbal message that their spouse has literally been replaced.
The cheater and lover are a part of the “home wrecking” team. The lover often carries the label, even though the infidel had the greater role in the defilement of your marriage bed.
It does make a difference where one has carnal relations. When they occur in the marriage bed, the relationship is in trouble. In some ways, it symbolizes “going too far” or “crossing the Rubicon“. Once matters get to that point, there is no respect of boundaries and institutions.
Those engaging in such acts have turned so reprobate, there is little chance of turning things around. When an infidel sleeps in the marriage bed, it sends a STRONG message of rejection to their spouse. Much like a dog marking its territory, the defilement of the bed marks the territory of the infidel. In this case, the act states that ‘nothing’ is sacred. It turns the status of wife or husband into that of the slut or the cuckold.
With that status, the relationship is no longer sacred, but rather animalistic sex. When sex becomes more animalistic, you will see more animal behavior, like marking one’s territory. It becomes sex without love or caring. It is merely a biological process.
The relations in the marriage bed with the lover is a way of marking new territory, or masking over previous markings.
So, where you have sex does make a difference.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey D Murrah
