Pop culture has contributed greatly to muddying up the water in regard to affairs and marriage. Many movies have romanticized affairs to the point where they look more like a recreational activity than a potentially life threatening situation. The film Fatal Attraction was shocking to many people with its graphic portrayal of an affair and the subsequent events. Anytime one begins to wax romantic about how an affair adds life, spark, and romance to one’s life, they may need to remind themselves that the movie version is a fairy tale.
The reality is that affairs hurt people. Everyone involved will loose something in the relationship. Even though an affair is approached with high expectations, (even though they say ‘I have no expectations’-the reality is they do) the excitement of the affair will come to an end. The fantasies will have to leave behind the reality of responsibility, bills, boredom and anger. Cheaters often do not consider the fact that if they can get out of an affair with their lives, sanity and family intact, they are doing VERY well.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
