The shaky time after an affair is also a dangerous time. During that time, each partner’s feelings are on edge and there is a hyper attentiveness to even small details. During this time it is important to be careful about what you are seeking, or what you want from your spouse. If you say “I just want to be left alone!” They may take action to insure that you get your wish. If you blurt out, “Just take the kids and let me think about things!”, they may end up taking your kids to places you never dreamed of. In the heat of the moment, people often say what their immediate wants are without considering the long term consequences of what they may be saying. The comments and demands made will almost surely be taken out of context, either by your spouse, or if legal proceedings begin, by the lawyers.
Even in scripture, there is the reminder how “God gave them the desires of their heart, but sent leanness into their souls”. This is often taken to mean, that we may get what we want, but we often will be unable to enjoy it, or enjoy life once we obtain that desire.
With this being said, be careful what you ask for. Builders use the addage, measure twice, cut once. This can be helpful here, think twice, speak once. If you tend to shoot off your mouth, you may want to change it to think twice, then think again before speaking once.
Best Regards
Jeff Murrah
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