After the affair that you had, your spouse felt cheated, betrayed, and lost in a sea of doubts and uncertainty. To rebuild your marriage, Your spouse will need to feel that they are the center of your world. Of course, this assumes that you have cut off all ties with the person you had an affair with.
As you rebuild your marriage, you should be completely open and honest with your spouse. This means that you are honest in answering their questions. More than that, you should also be willing to admit things that are quite uncomfortable for the two of you. Affairs do not happen in a vacuum. Affairs occur as the result of the actions, attitudes and emotions of each of you. Rather than hide what you are feeling as occurred prior to the affair, be honest. Such honesty and transparency will begin helping you both to rebuild your marriage. With such display of trustworthiness, you will prove your worth and the process of reconciliation becomes faster and easier. There will also need to be a commitment to the marriage. Rather than just talk, they will need to see that you want to see it work.
Expectations will need to be managed wisely. Do not dictate the length of time that your spouse will take to recover from the hurts and pain that she experienced. It might be a month or a year. Yet, by being patient, you show your sincerity in mending things and rebuilding your marriage.
