Part of the pain involved with coming to grips with affair is the realization that you’ve actually had an affair and that you’ve hurt your spouse deeply. But remember that your spouse, who is also the victim, has been hurt so deeply that reconciliation is only possible with the greatest pains and efforts from you. It will take effort from the both of you to reconcile. Take heart, if your love is true, you will be willing to go through such pains to rebuild your marriage.
As you rebuild your marriage, you should help your spouse recover from the affair. Bear in mind that the few weeks and months after the affair are crucial moments for you and your spouse. Depending on your actions during this period, the recovery period of your spouse may become longer or shorter.
You can help your spouse recover more if you will show her respect and love during the recovery period. By being sensitive to your spouse’s feelings, you can show that she is important to you and that you value her greatly as a person and as a beloved. On the other hand, if you ignore your spouse because you are defensive and you are brooding on your mistake, then the recovery period might go longer. In worst cases, reconciliation might even become impossible.
Help your spouse recover from the affair and you will be able to rebuild your marriage.
