Years ago, the musical group, the Moody Blues performed a song that included the line, “through the eyes of a child…”. This is a good song to keep in mind when a spouse is looking at an affair situation. Adults have a way a of rationalizing and excusing cheating. When a person wants to cheat, the mind has a way of making the unacceptable sound acceptable. Although the adult mind may distort things, a child’s mind does not look at things the same way. Although the parent may excuse the affair and believe it is acceptable, they forget that one day they will have to answer to their children. Even though their children may not ask questions at the time of an affair, they eventually will. Before you excuse the cheating, look at it through your child’s eyes and you will see things differently. Children have a simple way of looking at the world. They look at the world in black and white rather than excusing behaviors.
Best Regards,
Jeff Murrah
