Although jokes are made that it does not hurt to look, when it comes to affairs, looking can be dangerous. Consider for example, that in most major purchases, the first action is the look. Whether it is a car, home, or other major purchase, it all begins with a look. If the look was limited to observation alone, it would be one thing. What often occurs is that a ‘look’ is accompanied by fantasies about “what if?”. These fantasies about “what if?” often occurs in conjunction with a growing dissatisfaction with one’s current marriage. So while the looking is going on with the eyes, in the mind, fantasies are making the other person look better and one’s spouse look worse. Although some people can limit their actions to ‘observation alone’, many people can not. When they look, they look again, and begin wanting. It is the fantasies and wanting associated with the looking that leads to trouble.
Many things begin with ‘a look’. If you are a person inclined to be ‘looking’, you may want to consider where it will lead. Although in your fantasies, it will lead to bliss, the reality is that it will lead to hurt and pain. Consider the hurt and pain as part of the price tag of the object you are admiring. When you look at what it will cost you, then you can make better choices.
Best Regards,
Jeff Murrah
