Many times people who consider the affair option have difficulties with short-sightedness. They think of short term gains their decision will provide them with rather than considering the long term impact of their choices. The choice to engage in an affair is often rationalized as the solution to some other issue. By using the affair as an answer they are hoping it will ‘resolve’ or ‘take care’ of the original problem.
The use of an affair as a ‘solution’ to the problem never actually solves the problem. An affair at best is only a distraction from the problem. The affair always cost more in time, money and emotions than dealing with the problem would have. If you think a mortgage is long term with a 30-year note, consider that an affair damages reputations for generations. In some cases, the impact of illicit affairs last many years after the original parties are long gone. The impact of some affairs, espcially those that result in pregnancies last one or more lifetimes. If those restless souls who are considering affairs excersices far sightedness and considered the long-term cost before acting on their impulses, they would make very different choices.
So if you are contemplating an affair, don’t make the mistake of only looking at the temptation with short term vision, consider the affair through far sighted lenses as well.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
