There are times I wonder if the children growing up today are missing out on dealing with travel issues. With all the hand held screen devices and DVD’s, today’s children miss out on finding ways of self-soothing during long trips. They miss out on the challenge of the old question, “How much longer?”
Although I recall the discomfort of long trips, it was during those times I gained an appreciation of learning map reading and appreciating mile marker signs. I also developed landmarks for tracking those long repeat trips between Houston and San Antonio.
There are time you find yourself asking “How long does affair recovery take?” You know the affair is over, but wonder “How much longer?”
This is a tough question for any counselor to tackle honestly. The best answer I’ve heard was from Harold, the quiet, unassuming drug counselor.
Harold pointed out that it typically takes one month for each year of them being ‘sick’.
In the case of affairs, the cheater’s been thinking about the affair long before it happened. The cheater’s likely been sick for a lot longer than the affair lasted.
There could also be childhood issues behind the affair, which means recovery will take longer than you first assumed. You may want to think of recovery as an internal reset for the cheater.
Healing takes time. It takes time for all the emotions and thinking to get healthy and settle down.
The reason it takes a while is that you’ve got to purge the bad and unhealthy thinking. It’s not just removing the bad stuff. You’ve got to replace the void left behind with better stuff. Unhealthy thinking has a way of filling any voids it comes across.
If you don’t have an affair relapse prevention plan or have an incomplete one, unhealthy thinking could work its way into the cheater’s head and heart. The video “Preventing Affair Relapse” guides you in dealing with relapse including developing a good relapse prevention plan.
Poor planning always produces poor results, even when it comes to affair recovery. Take action and order the video today in order to prevent costly slips and relapses from ruining your marriage.
Best Regards,
Jeff
