One of the best ways to keep from being taken by hucksters is to avoid them. Likewise one of the best ways to keep being taken (snowed, lied to, snookered, etc.) by a lying spouse is to avoid the opportunities for ‘making excuses’. In the aftermath of an affair, the pain levels are high. During this time of high pain, people often want to reduce their pain and do so quickly. While they are in the midst of the pain, they often grab at the first way to reduce their pain presented to them. Rather than seeking after ‘truth’ the hurting spouse accepts what is ‘plausible’ even though it may be an excuse. Since they want to believe their spouse, they accept the reasons given for the affair, even though the ‘reasons’ are flimsy excuses.
After swallowing the excuse, they often regret having done so. Statements of self-regret such as “why did I do that?”, “How could I have believed them?”, “Was I really that dumb?” are often heard as they finally wake up to what happened.
In order to avoid hucksters, one must avoid them and avoid the ‘get rich quick’ mentality that often sets people up for their scam. With excuses, a person must not accept the excuses and avoid the ‘get out of pain quick’ mentality that sets them up for the emotional scam as well.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
