In assembling material for another book on dealing with affairs, I have come across some thought provoking observations. One is that there is often a greater emphasis on understanding whether or not an affair is taking place than on ways of coping with the affair. There are plenty of top 10 signs that your spouse is cheating, but there are few top 10 signs of How to cope with affairs. There are even fewer top 10 lists of How to know when the affair is over, or the top 10 signs that your marriage is healing after an affair.
In terms of what to make of it, I am not sure. I suspect that many people want to know about whether or not an affair is occurring, yet they do not always want to recover from the affair. People also do not want information on how to break up affairs either, which puzzles me. It seems to me that people should be interested in signs that the affair is over, which is something I would be interested in.
I will share more of the observations and discoveries along the way as I assemble the material for what promises to be a fascinating book dealing the the most common concerns about affairs.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
