Waiting is never enjoyable. Overcoming infidelity often involves waiting. Waiting for your spouse to come home, waiting for phone calls when they are out of town, waiting for the next possible episode. There are many forms of waiting. No matter what form you find yourself dealing with, it does not make it any easier.
Coping with the waiting is often a challenge. The wait often involves soul searching in terms of where you put your faith. Do you have more faith that your spouse will make a mistake or more faith that your spouse will remain loyal. During the wait, you find out where your faith truly lies. You may say that you hope for the best. Despite all the good rhetoric, when you are waiting you find out where your faith truly lies. When the images replay over and over in your mind, are they of your spouse doing you right or of doing you wrong.
When spouses have had a heavy diet of romance novels or pornography, they often find themselves struggling with their thoughts. Those media forms often weaken self-control of the thoughts. After a heavy diet of them, it is increasingly harder to trust in the best. The thoughts of the worst just come. Too many fantasies make it hard to disipline the mind.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
