You may find yourself asking, “Will I ever be able to trust the cheater again?” The answer depends on whether or not you decide to do so.
The messages you tell yourself shapes your ability to trust. If you told yourself that there’s no way you’ll ever trust them again, you will probably not trust them.
Those message actually set up emotional and mental walls that function as barriers that keep trust from occurring. You tell your mind whether or not trust is an option.
When you begin trusting, it won’t come all at once. It grows a little at a time.
It needs nurturing and time. As it experiences safety and security, it grows. If, on the other hand, there is uncertainty, and threats, the growth of trust is retarded.
It’s not something that occurs without effort. Trust requires effort. It’s just that most people don’t know where to put that effort.
You’ll need to change your thinking and your emotional responses. It also involves engaging your will in choosing how to respond to situations.
You can always choose how you react, along with whether or not you react.
Trust is a series of choices, it’s an act of the will. What your will is commanded to do, your emotions will follow.
Do you want to trust the cheater is the critical question. Whether or not you can trust them depends on whether or not you WANT to trust them.
In the video “How Can I Trust You Again?” I go into greater detail on what trust is and what it takes to rebuild it.
Best Regards,
Jeff
