Carol found herself terrified of being abandoned. The very thought of her husband leaving her shook her to her core. She could not imagine him leaving her. She needed him and panicked whenever she thought that he might leave her. She hated the feelings of panic. They made her feel weak. Even when she tried to appear strong on the outside, she was trembling on the inside at even the potential of him leaving her.
Even with the intensity of her fears, she also felt desperate concerning her marriage. She needed someone to talk to her and give her attention. When someone came along who gave her that attention, it was like a whole new world opened up to her. She loved the attention. Even with the excitement of a new relationship, she found herself torn between those fears of abandonment and the desperation she felt about her emotional needs. She did not want to have an affair, and at the same time, she can’t picture being without her husband. Being torn between those extremes was tearing Carol apart.
Some affairs are driven by strong feelings of fear and desperation. There are real hurts that need real answers. Carol needed answers to help her understand how to heal her marriage and how to heal herself.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
