Many cheaters respond to the being caught with the phrase “I can’t help it”. Such phrases make the cheating sound like it was an irresistible force. In the case of sexual addictions, the phrase may have some credence, although in most cases of cheating it is a misstatement. One way to know if it is a misstatement is whether or not the cheater hid evidence of the affair. If they hid evidence, then they were aware of what they were doing. They knew that what they were doing was unacceptable. When they did advance planning to arrange to meet the lover, then they had some self control. In order to plan, they knew what they were doing. In true cases of “I can’t help it!”, events occur in a spontaneous manner and they “just act out”. Planning and spontaneity do not occur at the same time. You can have one or the other, but not both.
This well help you in dealing with such situations.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
