Are you struggling to like your spouse after their affair? Trust is often the main concern expressed by couples, but it’s also important to learn ways of liking your spouse again. In this post, we will explore this topic and provide helpful tips to remove roadblocks to liking and rekindle affection.
One major roadblock to liking your spouse is resentment. Whether it’s directed at them or their actions, resentment can hinder the development of loving feelings. When you’re resentful, it’s difficult to like each other, let alone love each other. Resentment creates a powerful barrier to friendship and love.
Resentment presents some challenges. One expert referred to resentment as legitimate anger, since it involves your reaction to being wronged along with self-preservation at the same time. One of the effects is the creation of physical and emotional distance.
But how do you overcome resentment? First, it’s important to recognize and feel your feelings without responding defensively. Resentment often stems from repeated actions that make you feel like you’re stuck in a never-ending cycle. It occupies your heart and mind, draining you emotionally and preventing you from finding joy in your relationship.
Reminders of the affair can also trigger resentment, causing strong emotional reactions that steal any remaining happiness. These reactions can be similar to experiencing trauma, leaving you feeling stuck and drained. To move past resentment, it may be helpful to use techniques commonly used in overcoming affair trauma. It is also important to move past resentment as quickly as possible.
By addressing and releasing resentment, you can free up emotional energy and create space for positive changes in your relationship. Although it may not immediately make you like your spouse again, it will give you the emotional energy needed to create a better future together.
If you’re ready to overcome resentment and rebuild your relationship, watch our video on “Overcoming Affair Trauma” for guidance on getting unstuck and finding emotional healing. Let’s remove the roadblock of resentment and create a brighter future for your relationship.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
