Although the question “What’s so bad about sleeping around?” is viewed as a “duh?” type of question in some parts of the county, I recognize that there are many people who actually do not see problems with the practice. There are also some spouses that are caught up in swinging to the point they see it as acceptable. There are some parts of the country that view a counselor working to save marriages from affairs as a novelty. So for the sake of those people, I will spell out the answer to this question.
Affairs (sleeping around) are destructive to marriages. Contrary to the advice of Ashely Madison and others, they do not enhance the marriage.
1. It creates an environment of distrust.
2. It creates potential exposure to disease.
3. It creates emotional confusion.
4. It weakens the bonds of the marriage relationship.
5. It weakens the bonds of the parent-child relationship.
6. It creates spiritual and emotional dissonance.
7. It damages reputations.
8. It creates an environment conducive to lying.
9. It creates a massive double standard in many areas of the persons life.
10. It creates exposure to blackmail.
11. It creates unnatural bonding and emotional attachments.
12. It is financially expensive
13. It enlarges legal exposure.
14. It lends itself to creating an atmosphere of gratification without responsibility.
15. It is often life threatening.
These are some of the major concerns involved in what is so bad about sleeping around. You can do something about it though. Obtain a copy of the Affair Recovery System and begin the process of healing your marriage. Each day you do not heal or strengthen your marriage, you weaken it.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
