Can you afford unforgiveness?

“There’s no way I’ll ever forgive what they did!” is often heard concerning cheating. When the betrayal hits you, it hurts.

The natural desire is to seek revenge or paybacks for what they did to you. Although it is natural to want revenge, the danger of such action is high.

The risk of being killed related to an affair is high. When emotions and passions are intense and unrestrained, many things begin happening that were never planned for.

It is not by accident that the ancient Romans had a saying that “Anger is a temporary madness“. The revenge driven by cheating is a temporary madness.

Fortunately most people regain their wits about them and do not give into the intense passions they feel regarding revenge. When the initial desire for revenge subsides, they often make the mistake of thinking “the danger is over”.

The danger isn’t over. The desire for payback may show up in attempts at punishing the cheater, either directly or indirectly.

The punishment may allow you to feel good temporarily, but it does little to reconcile your marriage relationship. The punishment and paybacks only serve to keep distance between the two of you.

Nursing a grudge or thinking that you are punishing them by choosing not to forgive only hurts you. Unforgiveness is often a breeding ground for many health related issues, from ulcers and high blood pressure to headaches and insomnia.

It’s also a driving force behind a large amount of alcohol and drug abuse. It may give you an excuse to get high, but the only person who is feeling the pain in such cases is the one who is not forgiving.

Choosing not to forgive carries with it a large price tag. That price tag includes health issues, isolation, worry, fear, anxiety and a host of other items. Holding a grudge is not worth the price.

If you aren’t sure where to start with forgiveness or how to forgive, the video, “Forgiveness: Stop the Pain, Tear down the walls and Remove the Roadblocks” is something worth considering. In the video, you’ll be shown how to forgive along with having forgiveness explained.

Best Regards,

Jeff